You can "influence" your partner, but don't demand that he or she change.

2. Express appreciation.
Tell your partner the things you really like about him or her. -often. Avoid constant critisism.

3. Be honest - and tactful.
Agree that both of you will be honest, and that neither of you will be penalised for that honesty.

4. Agree to disagree.
(but don't pretend that you agree when you really don't) Recognize that you will have differences. Compromise when necessary.

5. Support your partner's goal.
Don't give up on your desires and views, but go as far as you honestly can to support your partner even when you disagree with his or her goals.

6. Give your partner the right to be wrong.
Respect his or her right to be human. Humans make mistakes.

7. Be patient.
Some of your relationship wants may need to become goals - to be achieved later.